If you are looking for an informal mentoring relationship, you probably already know your potential mentor. Consider your own challenges in life and begin to look there for your mentor. Remember, each person’s roles and challenges in life are different. You are not looking for someone just like you to solve your problems, but a successful role model, who has faced similar situations as you having achieved optimal results. Look for someone with similar roles, challenges, or priorities as your own.
- Roles: a mentor juggling similar roles as your own can speak to how they have found balance in their own life. Look for other parents at work or other volunteers at soccer practice who may share other roles in common with you.
- Challenges: a mentor who has faced and surmounted similar challenges as your own will be able to guide you toward successful coping mechanism and problem solving techniques. Determine where you struggle the most and look for others to build a relationship. There are likely other moms at your child’s daycare who have struggled with the guilt of leaving a child. There may be others at work that have negotiated a flexible schedule to fit their needs.
- Priorities: a mentor with similar priorities will be able to help you find solutions that honor your values and priorities. There may be someone you run into often at the gym that has struggled to find time each day to exercise. Or look for someone from church to help you honor your spirituality throughout life’s other roles.